Forget your Fear

If you want, you will learn. When we think it is difficult, we create a barrier. So it is our own creation. There is nothing difficult or easy if we think it is that. If a woman is afraid of the dark, but suppose her child is sick, at midnight she walks to the doctor. Why? How? Because she has forgotten her fear. Isn't it? So when you forget your fear, there is nothing to be afraid of.

Heart Speak 2004, vol. 2, p. 80 –Rev. Chariji

Expect Not

The main thing is not to want anything. We are always wanting something. We expect something from our friend, something from our beloved, something from society, and every time we expect, we will be disappointed - no happiness. So I gave an eleventh maxim: Don't expect and there won't be any disappointment.

Heart Speak 2004, vol. 2, p. 78 –Rev. Chariji

Right Thoughts

So please adopt the right means for the right end. No wrong means can give the right end. Right ends may happen because it is destined to happen. But if human effort is to succeed, you must follow the rule of the Buddha: right thought, right action, right result.

Heart Speak 2004, vol. 2, p. 75 –Rev. Chariji

Patience

Babuji always praised women. He said, "Woman only knows love, because she sends her children out to school, she sends her husband out to the office, and patiently waits until they come back, prayerfully perhaps, but patiently." Because prayer cannot supplant patience. Patience also shows faith that this will happen.

Heart Speak 2004, vol. 2, p. 73-74 -Rev. Chariji

Impatience shows lack of faith. "No, no, I want it now." You will have it when you are to have it. When it is good for you to have it - even in spiritual values, even spiritual blessings. He knows, the Giver knows, when you are ready for it.

Heart Speak 2004, vol. 2, p. 74 –Rev. Chariji

Guilt is sin

That is why Babuji said, "If you carry guilt with you, you are sinning much more than what made you guilty." Repentance means forgetting and determining not to do it again. No ritual can absolve you of your sins.

Heart Speak 2004, vol. 2, p. 73 –Rev. Chariji

Loneliness

Let us remember Babuji's sensitivity. Love flowers in isolation, in secrecy, in loneliness. All the love poetry in the world came from loneliness of the lover. Now they were not ecstatic songs sung by carpenters. They were songs of loneliness expressing the anguish of separation. "Let my loneliness cover me," says one ghazal [Persian Poetry]. "It is my only companion." So that is one thing about [love].

Hidden Love

He who loves must be silent, must be hidden, must not seek to be exposed. What is hidden is love. What is exposed is desire, is lust. So let us be modest in our love; let us hide its flame, not embarrass him and embarrass ourselves into the bargain.

Sacred Things

Babuji said: Love is a sacred thing. It is not secret; it is sacred. Something sacred should not be made profane by being broadcast in public.

Secret things are not sacred; like the weaponry strength of powerful nations. These are secret things but they are hateful, devilish, demoniac things; they are not sacred. So secrecy hides devilry. Sacredness veils something which is divine, which is higher in value, which cannot be exposed to the profane gaze.

Nothingness

If Sahaj Marg claims to give you anything, it is nothingness. That having which you have nothing, but without which you cannot exist--that is what Babuji said. When Lalaji made Babuji like himself, he said, "Now I have given you everything. I have made you into myself," and Babuji said, "Is that all?" So he said, "Ram Chandra, if that is all that you think about it, let me take this condition back from you." And Babuji said, "Lord, I cannot live without it." So Lalaji said, "It is that, having which you have nothing, but without which you cannot even exist." Love is like that.

Blessings

All this asking for blessings, to my mind, is unnecessary. Blessings are always there. Are we utilizing them? Babuji said, "The sun is shining for everybody. It rains, but only the man who prepares his field will harvest a crop." Isn't it? So we have to be prepared for the blessings.

Sensitivity

We should learn from our heart. Heart must respond. I have known Babuji waking up somebody who is sleeping at eleven o'clock at night and saying. "You didn't have your food." I said, "How do you know?" He said, "I feel it."

Opportunity

This famous ancient saying you know: four things come not back the sped arrow, the spoken word, the opportunity lost and the time wasted. None of these things come back. So that is the final wisdom, you know, how to use these four things properly. Never tell a word which must need to be withdrawn or has to be withdrawn. An apology is something like that. Never waste an opportunity, a Satsangh.